Let’s Talk About Love
An ideal relationship should have the ff: mutual understanding, giving and receiving support and enjoying the loved one’s company.
Since the concept of human relationship settled in my head, I’ve wanted to experience the feeling. I’ve yearned for it, wished that I could have someone near in my heart, an individual who deserves to accept my affection – that’s the time I wanted to be in love.
We frequently consider love as something that has to do with passion. Others accidentally interpret it as lust. But many of us aren’t aware that love also has to deal with intimacy and commitment.
According to Robert Sternberg, a psychologist, “If there’s only intimacy in a relationship, there’s only liking. If there’s only passion, there’s only infatuation. If there’s only commitment, there’s only empty love. But if intimacy is added to passion, it’s equivalent to romantic love. If intimacy + commitment, = companionate love. If passion + commitment, = fatuous/foolish love. Therefore, if passion + intimacy + commitment, = consummate/perfect love.”
What I’m looking for is either romantic love or companionate love but I give more emphasis to the latter. As stated by Myers, author of a social psychology book, “ Although love burns hot, it inevitably simmers down. The longer the relationship endures, It will settle to a steadier but warm afterglow.” ( I’m not closing my doors for consummate love coz I would be truly delighted if I would be given a chance to go through that. )
